1. Make her feel secure, don’t
threaten her with divorce.
2. Give sincere Salaams.
3. Treat her gently, like a fragile
vessel.
4. Advise in private, at the best
time, in the best way and
atmosphere.
5. Be generous with her.
6. Warm the seat for her, you
will warm her heart.
7. Avoid anger, be in Wudhu at
all times.
8. Look good and smell great
for your wife.
9. Don’t be rigid or harsh-
hearted or you will be broken.
10. Be a good listener.
11. Yes for flattery. No for
arguing.
12. Call your wife with the best
names, cute nicknames, and
names she loves to hear.
13. A pleasant surprise.
14. Preserve and guard the
tongue.
15. Expect, accept, and
overlook her shortcomings.
16. Give sincere compliments.
17. Encourage her to keep
good relations with her family.
18. Speak of the topic of her
interest.
19. Express to her relatives,
how wonderful she is.
20. Give each other gifts.
21. Get rid of routine, surprise
her.
22. Have a good opinion of
each other.
23. Have good manners,
overlook small things, don’t
nitpick.
24. Add a drop of patience,
increase during pregnancy,
menses.
25. Expect and respect her
jealously.
26. Be humble.
27. Sacrifice your happiness for
hers.
28. Help at home, with
housework.
29. Help her love your relatives,
but don’t try to force her.
30. Let her know that she is
the ideal wife for you.
31. Remember your wife in
Du’a.
32. Leave the past for Allah,
don’t dwell on, dig into, or
bring it up.
33. Don’t act as if you are
doing her a favor by working
or providing, Allah is the
Provider, the husband is the
carrier of the sustenance to the
family.
34. Take Shaitan as your
enemy, not your wife.
35. Put food in your wife’s
mouth.
36. Treat your wife like she is
the most precious pearl that
you want to protect.
37. Show her your smile.
38. Don’t ignore the small
things, deal with them before
they be come big.
39. Avoid being harsh-hearted.
40. Respect and show that you
appreciate her thinking.
41. Help her to find and build
her inner strengths and skills.
42. Respect that she might not
be in mood for intimacy, stay
within Halaal boundaries.
43. Help her take care of the
children.
44. Give her gifts with your
tongue, be an artist with your
compliments.
45. Sit down and eat meals
together.
46. Let her know that you will
be traveling or returning from
travel, give her sufficient
notice.
47. Don’t leave home in anger.
48. Maintain the secrecy and
privacy of the home.
49. Encourage each other in
worship.
50. Respect and fulfill her
rights upon you.
51. Live with her in kindness,
goodness, fairness in good
and bad times.
52. Kiss your wife, foreplay,
don’t jump on her like a bull.
53. Keep disputes between the
two of you, don’t take it
outside.
54. Show care for her health
and well-being.
55. Remember you are not
always right or perfect
yourself.
56. Share your happiness and
sadness with her.
57. Have mercy for her
weaknesses.
58. Be a firm support for her to
lean on.
59. Accept her as is, she is a
package deal.
60. Have a good intention for
her.
61. Cook a dish for her.
62. Designate a nice, clean,
spacious area in your home for
the two of you to pray at night
whenever you can.
63. Women love flowers. Make
a trail of them on the floor
leading to the gift you made
for her.
64. Give her a nice massage
when she least expects it.
65. Send your wife a text
message out of the blue with a
message of love.
66. Send your wife an email
without a reason.
67. Go out on a date or a get-
away for the weekend in a nice
location, preferably without
kids.
68. Do something for your
wife’s family, whether it is a
gift, or a chat with her teen
brother who needs mentoring,
or whatever. It will get you lots
of brownie points.
69. Do not keep reminding and
demanding your rights all the
time.
70. Shop groceries for her and
call her from the store and ask
her what she needs for the
home, for herself or for her to
give to people as gifts.
71. Ask her if she would like to
invite her female friends over
for ladies only get together and
arrange for the dinner.
72. Ask her to send gifts to her
parents and siblings.
73. Help her parents pay off
debt. Send her poor relatives
some money.
74. Write love notes or poems
and place them in the book
she’s been reading.
75. If she tells you something
she had just learned from the
Qur’an or Hadith, do not
dismiss her or ridicule her
effort, instead listen to her and
take her word.
76. Plant her a kitchen garden
with all kind of herbs she
needs for cooking.
78. Update her PC or laptop
with a new one or get her a
new mobile phone.
79. Learn to do a special
massage technique and
surprise her with your new
expertise.
80. Teach your children to
respect and honor their
mother.
81. Be humorous with her
when she makes a mistake in
the kitchen (like when she put
too much salt or burnt her
baking).
